Words Can Bless or Bust Relationships and Reputations

Words Can Bless or Bust Relationships and Reputations.

I’m a writer and a lover of haiku. Haiku is a succinct form of poetry that originated in Japan. It’s funny that someone, like me, who tends to say and use too many words has found joy in creating micro-poetry. Recently, while I was looking out my writing room window, I watched and heard a street cleaner drive by. As I listened to the whir of its brushes scrubbing the road, a haiku formed in my mind. I’ll share it with you at the end of this post because I want to talk about some other types of thoughts and words first.

Our words must be weighed before they’re displayed.

As a writer, I need to be especially careful when I’m writing nonfiction. With memoir articles, I make a point of getting permission before including information about another person; otherwise I need to disguise their identity like I recently did for a guest post on Two Drops of Ink: A Literary Blog, entitled: What’s Your Diagnosis?

Words can bless or bust relationships and reputations.

Proverbs 15:28 (NIV) says:

The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.



Words must be weighed against their ton of potential consequences.

Marriage is another area where the watching of words is wise. I believe one of the biggest blockages to marital bliss is the misuse of words. Since I’m a woman and a wife, I’m going to approach this topic from this point of view. The morning I stumbled upon Proverbs 15:28 was the morning after I had purposely guarded my tongue against hurling an accusation that would have been based on my misinterpretation of evidence.

Thankfully I heeded the warning of the Spirit and didn’t jump to conclusions or shout, “Foul.”



The problem with the past is its potential to pollute the present.

We can learn from it or we can walk on the poisonous path of our old thought patterns. If we haven’t forged new trails, we’re likely to traipse through the same old stupid wilderness of bewilderment.

In a previous podcast I mentioned:

Holy happens in a heart that’s hallowed for Him.

Our words and our way are to be holy.

Philippians 4:8 says we’re to think about whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, or praiseworthy.

If we’re focusing on anything besides God, we’re inviting sickness and sin within; we’re hopeless without His holiness.

When I’m tempted to think the worst instead of the best about someone, it’s a sign I’m failing to focus on whatever is lovely. Lasting recovery in a relationship only happens under the same conditions holy does. Make no mistake, when we find our happy anywhere but in Christ, it’s hazardous to our health. And soul. And marriage.



Healing happens when He is the heart and home of our hope.

If we want to forgo and avoid any dark places our marriage may have dwelt in, we have to let go of the past. Isaiah 43:18-19 (NIV) says:

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.

See, I am doing a new thing!

Now it springs up: do you not perceive it?

I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.”

So, I spent more than my usual amount of time in the Word of God on the morning of my misplaced hope. I purposely focused back on Him who meets my need for healing, hope, and happy. In this time with the Lord, my heart-joy was restored as His Holy brushed out the desert dust I’d gathered during my dark detour into the past. And like the morning light that shone through my unveiled writing room window, His light illumined the truths I needed to see and believe.

A wise woman measures

Her words before she speaks

As she considers and weighs

What will bring lasting peace.

If we’re hoping for a happy ending, we need to put our hope in the God of the beginning.



Happy endings happen when we put our hope in the God of the beginning.

In keeping with the theme of succinct poetry, I’ll close now with the haiku I wrote while the street cleaner scoured our road and the Scriptures scoured my soul:

I opened the Word

as the street cleaner drove by

Holy washing my heart

Holy Heart Blessings ~ Wendy

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19 thoughts on “Words Can Bless or Bust Relationships and Reputations

  1. Wendy, such wisdom in your words! It’s amazing how quickly words can lift up or injure. I’m trying to teach my boys the importance of speaking words of life to each other and about themselves. It’s a hard lesson, to be sure.

    Thanks for the verses and the reminders of how we can use our words to bless. And thank you for sharing your beautiful photos!

    1. Thank you, dear Jeanne. As your sons witness the words you and your husband share within the family, they learn the language of kindness and thoughtfulness. Nothing is more rewarding in parenthood than seeing your children care for each other in times of need. It makes all the old squabble memories melt into the sea of God’s grace. xo

  2. Oh, Wendy … yes. My mouth. I’ll just stay quiet. But a long time a go, I did get in the habit of saying I’m sorry … and that goes a long, long way with your kids. Grace is a beautiful thing. xoxo

  3. This a beautiful, informative, and wise post. I,too, am a diciple of Jesus. I have a blog dedicated to writnig about my walk with Him, but I must admit that it gets very little attention from me. I never make the time to write about God and His mighty word. I read your blog all the time and I enjoy it so much. You’re writing is blessed Wendy. God has given you a talent. God bless, Scott

    1. Thank you, Scott, for your encouraging words. Each of Christ’s followers has a unique call; each contributes exactly as He preordained us to. Blessings as you write in the way He has created you to. I appreciate what you share on Two Drops of Ink—your blog is a gift to the writing community. 🙂

  4. Hi Wendy, I enjoyed your thoughts on words, and especially your poems. The statement about past words resonated with me because I do tend to ruminate for far too long! Nice to find you out here in cyberspace- keep in touch! Blessings friend.

    1. Thank you, dear Jamie. It’s nice to meet you in Blogland and in Twitterville. I can relate to the rumination struggle. Today I realized God is not only able to use everything for good, but He can make up for anything we may have suffered or been deprived of. That hit home. <3 God is love. Blessings.

  5. Wendy,

    Hopefully you won’t get more than one reply, my internet keeps going out. I have tried to post this for the past hour!

    Interesting that you should have this as a post. I’ve just recently read a book about keeping our mouths shut in different situations.

    I don’t have the problem when around others and I think that is due somewhat to my natural tendency to be an introvert. However, around my family is another matter. I tend to be just a little too snarky and sometimes way too judgmental. I only recently realized this.

    I fought against being judgmental toward others, and feel I have pretty much succeeded, because I had an awfully, horribly judgmental-jump to incorrect, hurtful conclusions-type father. His was directed at EVERYONE! He’d even chastise complete strangers!!

    The last saying about the past polluting the future is so true.

    Thanks again to you for allowing the Lord to speak through you and your posts.


    1. Thank you, dear Robbye, for taking the time to share your testimony of overcoming something you’ve experienced from both sides. Knowing how it feels to be suspected and criticized is a huge motivator for change. I love how gently the Lord leads us away from our old ways and into His way for us. Grace wins that race every time. 🙂
      Blessings ~ Wendy

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