Words Can Bless or Bust Relationships and Reputations.
I’m a writer and a lover of haiku. Haiku is a succinct form of poetry that originated in Japan. It’s funny that someone, like me, who tends to say and use too many words has found joy in creating micro-poetry. Recently, while I was looking out my writing room window, I watched and heard a street cleaner drive by. As I listened to the whir of its brushes scrubbing the road, a haiku formed in my mind. I’ll share it with you at the end of this post because I want to talk about some other types of thoughts and words first.
Our words must be weighed before they’re displayed.
As a writer, I need to be especially careful when I’m writing nonfiction. With memoir articles, I make a point of getting permission before including information about another person; otherwise I need to disguise their identity like I recently did for a guest post on Two Drops of Ink: A Literary Blog, entitled: What’s Your Diagnosis?
Words can bless or bust relationships and reputations.
Proverbs 15:28 (NIV) says:
The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.
Words must be weighed against their ton of potential consequences.
Marriage is another area where the watching of words is wise. I believe one of the biggest blockages to marital bliss is the misuse of words. Since I’m a woman and a wife, I’m going to approach this topic from this point of view. The morning I stumbled upon Proverbs 15:28 was the morning after I had purposely guarded my tongue against hurling an accusation that would have been based on my misinterpretation of evidence.
Thankfully I heeded the warning of the Spirit and didn’t jump to conclusions or shout, “Foul.”
The problem with the past is its potential to pollute the present.
We can learn from it or we can walk on the poisonous path of our old thought patterns. If we haven’t forged new trails, we’re likely to traipse through the same old stupid wilderness of bewilderment.
In a previous podcast I mentioned:
Holy happens in a heart that’s hallowed for Him.
Our words and our way are to be holy.
Philippians 4:8 says we’re to think about whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, or praiseworthy.
If we’re focusing on anything besides God, we’re inviting sickness and sin within; we’re hopeless without His holiness.
When I’m tempted to think the worst instead of the best about someone, it’s a sign I’m failing to focus on whatever is lovely. Lasting recovery in a relationship only happens under the same conditions holy does. Make no mistake, when we find our happy anywhere but in Christ, it’s hazardous to our health. And soul. And marriage.
Healing happens when He is the heart and home of our hope.
If we want to forgo and avoid any dark places our marriage may have dwelt in, we have to let go of the past. Isaiah 43:18-19 (NIV) says:
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up: do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.”
So, I spent more than my usual amount of time in the Word of God on the morning of my misplaced hope. I purposely focused back on Him who meets my need for healing, hope, and happy. In this time with the Lord, my heart-joy was restored as His Holy brushed out the desert dust I’d gathered during my dark detour into the past. And like the morning light that shone through my unveiled writing room window, His light illumined the truths I needed to see and believe.
A wise woman measures
Her words before she speaks
As she considers and weighs
What will bring lasting peace.
If we’re hoping for a happy ending, we need to put our hope in the God of the beginning.
Happy endings happen when we put our hope in the God of the beginning.
In keeping with the theme of succinct poetry, I’ll close now with the haiku I wrote while the street cleaner scoured our road and the Scriptures scoured my soul:
I opened the Word
as the street cleaner drove by
Holy washing my heart
Holy Heart Blessings ~ Wendy
Which of my colour-highlighted sentences resonated with you? I’m nosy-to-know.